I blame myself for the three illnesses,..which have kept me indoors for the months of December and January. I WOULD go to the Rezzy Fest and I would go to the New Year's Eve Party with my husband and polka till two AM even though I was told to stay in the house and sit still!!
"I'm not dead yet!" I told my doctor when she told me to stay in the house and behave myself after my first round of pneumonia for 2004.
"Well,..Emily!" the doc says to me, "If you keep going out in this freezing weather,..you just might be dead sooner than you think!!"
Anyway,..I have been neglecting my blog...among other things!! Right now,..I am enjoying the luxury of breeeeeaaathing! I don't have to force the air in and out of my lungs!! It is flooooowing in and out of my avioli and bronchi as effortlessly and easily as water flows out through unclogged pipes!! I don't even have to think about..
Incoming breath...puuullll!
Outgoing breath.....puuush!!
I do believe that the horror of fear of a trach and a big black breathing machine has kept me pushing air in and out of my pneumonia beleagered lungs all during the month of January!!
My one client,..who has post polio syndrome has kept me going too!! Ro,..my client, does not know it, but the thought that someone is depending on me keeps me moving!!
Ro can't even sit up anymore by herself as the post-polio syndrome has destroyed almost all the muscles in her arms and legs and back, but she can assume a sitting position and pull herself about once her special electric bed pushes her body into an upright position. She can also dress herself and refuses to let me help her with that. I doubt it though if I would have the patience to go about it though as she does.
Ro takes four hours to get into a bra, a shirt, and some sort of wrap around skirt. She just wears socks on her feet..when she wears them. Yet,..she dresses herself!!
In her time,..Ro has kept house,..born three children,..and gone through two husbands...all from a wheelchair!!
I can understand her attitude. That attitude is what kept Annie alive long after she was supposed to have stopped pushing air in an out, and..has kept me breathing through my two or three pneumonias this winter and heart cath and angioplasty last fall.
What attitude am I taking about? The attitude and the idea that we have as much right to think and breath and write and study and marry and have children and just plain live as any able bodied person,..who wants to do those same things on this earth. And some of us do those things better than the so-called able bodied...because we TRY harder..to survive!!
Ro told me something that mad me so angry that I wanted to spit. This took place over twenty years ago,..but I can see it happening today!! This incident took place in a church after the service,..no less!!
Ro was sitting in her wheelchair with her son on her lap..right after he was born, and waiting for her husband and her two daughters. Her son was a very pretty baby and a lot of folks would stop and look at him.
One well dressed young matron walked up to her and demanded of her,.."How could a cripple like you pay off an adoption agency for a beautiul child like that? I should report you to welfare for having such a child!! My husband and I have been trying to adopt a baby for three years now and here someone like you can get one!!"
Ro said that she pulled herself up in her wheelchairand told the bigotess,.."This is my own son! I did not adopt him..!"
Where upon "milady" snaps back,.."That's a lie!! People like you can't even have sex,..let alone have children!! Are you even married?"
Mrs. "Ablebodied-Bigot" was even more mortified when Ro's ex-airforce second husband came up behind the two of them with Ro's two teenaged daughters in tow and said to her,.."Yes!! We're married! That's what the Justice of the Peace in Canton told us!! I manage a store and we are not on welfare,..and madam,..I can assure you that my wife and I not only have sex and that is how we got our baby son, but that is how Ro got her two daughters with her first husband!!"
The "lady" walked off snorting in disgust about "over-sexed" disabled women, who managed to ensnare two men with their "flagrantly-displayed" sexuality"..while a "normal" woman had to be satisfied with only one guy,..who was probably impotent!!
"If I was a man," I said to Ro after she told me about this incident,.."And I was married to a woman like that,..I'd be impotent too!"
Anyway,..Bill caused his dad and I some upset in that he and Shawn came in the other day and told us that they had converted to "veganism!"
"You can't do that!" my poor husband shouts, "I won't have any of that heathen stuff going on in this house! And don't you go thinking that you are going to convert your mom and I to such trashy beliefs!! Your mom is driving me crazy with her liberal movie crap and such things!! I won't have you bringing anymore such wildness into our house!!"
Bill and Shawn were whooping with laughter! This made Lloyd get that much more angry till Bill went and got the dictionary and we showed my poor husband that "veganism" is just a fancy way of saying that he and Shawn had become vegetarians.
Tofu burgers,..here we come!!